Accentuate The Positive. . .Eliminate The Negative - Outline

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# 1       Stop rationalizing temper tantrums.

Proverbs 14:17 KJV

“He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.”

Proverbs 14:17 AMPC

“He who foams up quickly and flies into a passion deals foolishly. . .”

Proverbs 16:32 NLT

“Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city.”

James 1:20 AMPC

“For man’s anger does not promote the righteousness God [wishes and requires].”

# 2       Male Pattern Baldness

Ephesians 4:29 AMPC

“Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 AMPC

“Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].”

# 3       Reaction Reflexes Create Relational Ruts

James 5:16 in AMPC

“Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].”

Isaiah 43:18-19 AMPC

“Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it and will you not give heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”

# 4       Never Assume Anything

Isaiah 11:3 AMPC

“And shall make Him of quick understanding, and His delight shall be in the reverential and obedient fear of the Lord. And He shall not judge by the sight of His eyes, neither decide by the hearing of His ears.”

James 1:19 AMPC

Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry.”

Personalize this verse and its seven key points as a daily exhortation to you.

# 5       Stop Kicking The Cat

Matthew 7:3-5 MSG

“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.”

Yogi Berra, the great catcher of the New York Yankees, who once said:

“I never blame myself when I'm not hitting. I just blame the bat and if it keeps up, I change bats. After all, if I know it isn't my fault that I'm not hitting, how can I get mad at myself?”

# 6       Manipulation Is More Than A Game, It’s A Sin

Matthew 5:33-37 MSG

“And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.”

Matthew 24:4 ESV

“And Jesus answered them, “See that no one leads you astray.”

1 Corinthians 15:33-34 AMPC

“Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character.  Awake [from your drunken stupor and return] to sober sense and your right minds, and sin no more. For some of you have not the knowledge of God [you are utterly and willfully and disgracefully ignorant, and continue to be so, lacking the sense of God’s presence and all true knowledge of Him]. I say this to your shame.”

Dr. Joyce Brothers once said:

“Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.”

# 7       Avoid Commiseraters

Lee Iacocca, the man who created the Mustang for Ford and later turned the Chrysler Corporation around, once said:

“Boys, there ain't no free lunches in this country. And don't go spending your whole life commiserating that you got the raw deals. You've got to say, "I think that if I keep working at this and want it bad enough I can have it." It's called perseverance.”

Isaiah 43:18 MSG

“Forget about what’s happened: don’t keep going over old history.”

If you have messed up. . .if you’ve been negative. . .I encourage you to use what Alcohol Anonymous calls it’s HALT system.

AA says that a person is most vulnerable to becoming upset when they are:

Hungry

Angry

Lonely

Tired

# 1     Stop rationalizing temper tantrums.

Proverbs 14:17 KJV

“He that is soon angry dealeth foolishly: and a man of wicked devices is hated.”

Proverbs 14:17 AMPC

“He who foams up quickly and flies into a passion deals foolishly. . .”

Proverbs 16:32 NLT

“Better to be patient than powerful; better to have self-control than to conquer a city.”

James 1:20 AMPC

“For man’s anger does not promote the righteousness God [wishes and requires].”

# 2     Male Pattern Baldness

Ephesians 4:29 AMPC

“Let no foul or polluting language, nor evil word nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth, but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace (God’s favor) to those who hear it.”

1 Corinthians 13:4-5 AMPC

“Love endures long and is patient and kind; love never is envious nor boils over with jealousy, is not boastful or vainglorious, does not display itself haughtily.

5 It is not conceited (arrogant and inflated with pride); it is not rude (unmannerly) and does not act unbecomingly. Love (God’s love in us) does not insist on its own rights or its own way, for it is not self-seeking; it is not touchy or fretful or resentful; it takes no account of the evil done to it [it pays no attention to a suffered wrong].”

# 3     Reaction Reflexes Create Relational Ruts

James 5:16 in AMPC

“Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].”

Isaiah 43:18-19 AMPC

“Do not [earnestly] remember the former things; neither consider the things of old. Behold, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs forth; do you not perceive and know it and will you not give heed to it? I will even make a way in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.”

# 4     Never Assume Anything

Isaiah 11:3 AMPC

“And shall make Him of quick understanding, and His delight shall be in the reverential and obedient fear of the Lord. And He shall not judge by the sight of His eyes, neither decide by the hearing of His ears.”

James 1:19 AMPC

Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry.”

Personalize this verse and its seven key points as a daily exhortation to you.

# 5     Stop Kicking The Cat

Matthew 7:3-5 MSG

“Don’t pick on people, jump on their failures, criticize their faults— unless, of course, you want the same treatment. That critical spirit has a way of boomeranging. It’s easy to see a smudge on your neighbor’s face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, ‘Let me wash your face for you,’ when your own face is distorted by contempt? It’s this whole traveling road-show mentality all over again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face, and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.”

Yogi Berra, the great catcher of the New York Yankees, who once said:

“I never blame myself when I'm not hitting. I just blame the bat and if it keeps up, I change bats. After all, if I know it isn't my fault that I'm not hitting, how can I get mad at myself?”

# 6     Manipulation Is More Than A Game, It’s A Sin

Matthew 5:33-37 MSG

“And don’t say anything you don’t mean. This counsel is embedded deep in our traditions. You only make things worse when you lay down a smoke screen of pious talk, saying, ‘I’ll pray for you,’ and never doing it, or saying, ‘God be with you,’ and not meaning it. You don’t make your words true by embellishing them with religious lace. In making your speech sound more religious, it becomes less true. Just say ‘yes’ and ‘no.’ When you manipulate words to get your own way, you go wrong.”

Matthew 24:4 ESV

“And Jesus answered them, “See that no one leads you astray.”

1 Corinthians 15:33-34 AMPC

“Do not be so deceived and misled! Evil companionships (communion, associations) corrupt and deprave good manners and morals and character.  Awake [from your drunken stupor and return] to sober sense and your right minds, and sin no more. For some of you have not the knowledge of God [you are utterly and willfully and disgracefully ignorant, and continue to be so, lacking the sense of God’s presence and all true knowledge of Him]. I say this to your shame.”

Dr. Joyce Brothers once said:

“Love comes when manipulation stops; when you think more about the other person than about his or her reactions to you. When you dare to reveal yourself fully. When you dare to be vulnerable.”

# 7     Avoid Commiseraters

Lee Iacocca, the man who created the Mustang for Ford and later turned the Chrysler Corporation around, once said:

“Boys, there ain't no free lunches in this country. And don't go spending your whole life commiserating that you got the raw deals. You've got to say, "I think that if I keep working at this and want it bad enough I can have it." It's called perseverance.”

Isaiah 43:18 MSG

“Forget about what’s happened: don’t keep going over old history.”

If you have messed up. . .if you’ve been negative. . .I encourage you to use what Alcohol Anonymous calls it’s HALT system.

AA says that a person is most vulnerable to becoming upset when they are:

Hungry

Angry

Lonely

Tired