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Pastor Joel Osteen said:
“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you're doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.”
James 3:16 NLT
“For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.”
James 3:16 KV
“For where envying and strifeis, thereisconfusion and every evil work.”
James 3:16 MSG
“Whenever you’re trying to look better than others or get the better of others, things fall apart and everyone ends up at the others’ throats.”
1. Remain calm
James 1:19 AMPC
“Understand [this], my beloved brethren. Let every man be quick to hear [a ready listener], slow to speak, slow to take offense and to get angry.”
Ecclesiastes 10:4 TLB
“If the anger of the ruler rises against you, do not leave your place, for calmness will lay great offenses to rest.”
Can you guess who said this next quote?
“When adversity strikes, that's when you have to be the most calm. Take a step back, stay strong, stay grounded and press on.”
2. Love them anyway
Proverbs 10:12 TLB
“Hatred stirs up strife, but love covers all offenses. “
1 Peter 4:8 AMPC
“Above all things have intense and unfailing love for one another, for love covers a multitude of sins [forgives and disregards the offenses of others].”
Matthew 6:14-15 NKJV
“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.15 But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”
Ephesians 4:31-32 TLB
“Get rid of all bitterness, rage, anger, harsh words, and slander, as well as all types of evil behavior. Instead, be kind to each other, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God through Christ has forgiven you.”
3. Perception determines reality
Acts 25:8 THE
“Paul argued in his defense, “Neither against the law of the Jews, nor against the temple, nor against Caesar have I committed any offense.”
Mother Teresa once said:
“People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.”
FORGIVE THEM ANYWAY.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish motives.
BE KIND ANYWAY.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies.
If you are honest and sincere, people may deceive you.
BE HONEST AND SINCERE ANYWAY.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous.
BE HAPPY ANYWAY.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow.
DO GOOD ANYWAY.
Give the world the best you have and it may never be enough.
GIVE THEM YOUR BEST ANYWAY.
In the final analysis, it is between you and God;
IT NEVER WAS BETWEEN YOU AND THEM ANYWAY.”
4. Overlooking an offense makes you a winner
Proverbs 19:11 MSG
“Smart people know how to hold their tongue; their grandeur is to forgive and forget.”
Proverbs 19:11 TLB
“Good sense makes one slow to anger, and it is his glory to overlook an offense.”
Jeremiah 31:34 CEV
“. . . I will forgive their sins and forget the evil things they have done."
1 Kings 8:50 NLT
“Forgive your people who have sinned against you. Forgive all the offenses they have committed against you. Make their captors merciful to them.”
Proverbs 17:9 AMPC
“He who covers and forgives an offense seeks love, but he who repeats or harps on a matter separates even close friends.”
5. You don’t know what they think they know
Genesis 31:36 TLB
“Then Jacob became angry and berated Laban. Jacob said to Laban, “What is my offense? What is my sin, that you have hotly pursued me?”
Genesis 30:27 NLT
“Please listen to me,” Laban replied. “I have become wealthy, for the Lord has blessed me because of you.”
6. You may know the cause of offense
Matthew 13:57 TLB
“And they took offense at him. But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his hometown and in his own household.”
Matthew 17:24, 26 & 27 TLB
“The collectors of the Temple taxcame to Peter and asked him, “Doesn’t your teacher pay the Temple tax?”
“Yes, he does,” Peter replied. Then he went into the house.
But before he had a chance to speak, Jesus asked him,“What do you think, Peter?Do kings tax their own people or the people they have conquered?”
“They tax the people they have conquered,” Peter replied.
“Well, then,”Jesus said,“the citizens are free!
“However, not to give offense to them, go to the sea and cast a hook and take the first fish that comes up, and when you open its mouth you will find a shekel. Take that and give it to them for me and for yourself.”
Matthew 18:32-33 NLT
“Then the king called in the man he had forgiven and said, ‘You evil servant! I forgave you that tremendous debt because you pleaded with me. Shouldn’t you have mercy on your fellow servant, just as I had mercy on you?’”
7. Offense hurts you more than it does anybody else
Psalm 66:18 KJV
“If I regard iniquity in my heart, the Lord will not hear me.”
Matthew 5:23-26 MSG
"This is how I want you to conduct yourself in these matters. If you enter your place of worship and, about to make an offering, you suddenly remember a grudge a friend has against you, abandon your offering, leave immediately, go to this friend and make things right. Then and only then, come back and work things out with God.”
Matthew 18:35 AMPC
“So also My heavenly Father will deal with every one of you if you do not freely forgive your brother from your heart his offenses.”
2 Corinthians 6:3 AMPC
“We put no obstruction in anybody's way [we give no offense in anything], so that no fault may be found and [our] ministry blamed and discredited.”
Colossians 3:12-14 MSG
“So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. It's your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it.”
Matthew 18:15 NLT
“[Correcting Another Believer ] “If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.”
Genesis 50:16-17 NLT
“So they sent this message to Joseph: “Before your father died, he instructed us to say to you: ‘Please forgive your brothers for the great wrong they did to you—for their sin in treating you so cruelly.’ So we, the servants of the God of your father, beg you to forgive our sin.” When Joseph received the message, he broke down and wept.”
James 5:16 AMPC
“Confess to one another therefore your faults (your slips, your false steps, your offenses, your sins) and pray [also] for one another, that you may be healed and restored [to a spiritual tone of mind and heart]. The earnest (heartfelt, continued) prayer of a righteous man makes tremendous power available [dynamic in its working].”